Category Archives: Parenting

Some what a single mom……

One of the toughest jobs in the world is to raise a child. So much comes with raising kids. I don’t think anyone really realizes all the work it demands until they become a parent. I mean think about it you have this person that you have to care for, provide for and to teach all life lessons to. Imagine being a young mother, or even worst imagine doing it alone. I was 20 when I had my daughter, in my eyes I was a child raising a child. I had to learn to care for myself and care for a baby. Now the debate in my life is am I a single mother or not. My child is now 6 and as much as I don’t want to say it im starting to feel like I am. Her father is in her life and that is so appreciated, I grew up fatherless so I know the negative effects that come with that. He is appreciated but is that enough. I provide on a daily basis for my child financially and emotionally. Now we aren’t together and maybe that is what causes the difference in parenting but so much pressure is applied to the mother more then the father, why is that. The worst part is not being recongnized or appreciated for taking on these mother duties.  At a young age I had to learn to prioritize and realize that this child was my main concern in life, why does it seem that the father takes longer to see that. what makes life even harder with separated parents is the process of moving forward in life. It becomes so much easier for a father to move on in life and date then for a mom. They have all the time in the world and then when a mother actually finds time the father makes it an issue. My child’s father makes it so hard to move on. My daughter is 6 and not once has met a man in my life, so by now you would think that my judgment would be trusted. I’m feeling like I’m in the mist of getting serious with someone but I’m in fear of an issue erupting from it. Where is that fair to me. I should be moving forward happily but these are the cons that come from having a child with the wrong person I guess. I never regret my child but sometimes I question how I managed to get in a situation like this. Its hard and can become so overwhelming. The mother is to blame for every mistake this child makes, The mother cannot move forward in life, the mother has to give her last to provide for the child and the mother has to lose sleep in raising this child. Im ok with it all but where is it fair. What will it take for this man to realize how good he has it. This is something I will never know but boy how well it feels to let my thoughts out. Ill end this with a quote that I think men need to instill in their minds.


“The best thing a Father can do for his children is to love their Mother”