Mommy Vs. Daddy

“Your father is this, and Your mother is that”. Nowadays this is all children are growing up to hear. Having been on social media for as long as I have been its always been a debate about Mothers Bad mouthing the Absent father. Now it seems like its gone both ways. The Disorderly between parents has become highly oppressive. When has it been acceptable to verbally attack the other parent, and to make matters worst the attacks are seen through social media. What is the cause of all this broken behavior? Where did our morals go? When did parents become so selfish?

As a parent we should know to stop and think about how our actions would affect our kids. I have a question For the parents that spend their time bashing or attacking the mother or father via social media and just in general. Do you ever stop and think how this may affect your child? Children see themselves as half of each parent. When children hear bad things about one parent, they hear bad things about half of themselves. If they hear bad things about both their parents, they feel that both halves of themselves must be of little worth. Here is my example. My father was never around, But he was rarely discussed. When he was explained to me nothing negative was ever mentioned. I will always appreciate that because I was able to grow up and form my own opinion on him. That’s another topic though.

Now my next question is for the Parents that aren’t involved in their kids lives but still chose to verbally attack the parent that handles their obligations the correct way. Why the lack of respect for the person that is holding up their end as well as yours? Where do you build up the courage to harass the person that has constructed, heightened and lifted your child in times that you haven’t? (Yes very touchy topic for me) Here is my thought; for someone to revert to those types of actions only means they have inner issues that need to be dealt with. These people are usually more upset with themselves and what they lack in. What happens is they chose to make another person feel how they deep down inside truly feel about themselves because they in fact just cant handle it. It takes me back to my last blog “In Our Own way” if you read that you’ll get more of my understanding to this paragraph. Deal With your insecurities don’t blame them on others.

As parents we will all have moments of inaccuracy, confusion and error. What we need to do is take responsibility for our actions, accept when we are wrong, appreciate the other parent for all their efforts and for the single parent households, stand contemptuously and continue to handle your business. Though things may not be fair, these exhibitions that are being held on social media do absolutely nothing it helps in no way. Its about time we grow up. This is of course all just my opinion and thoughts. Let me know what you guys are thinking?

“Parenting is the easiest thing in the world to have in opinion on, but the hardest thing in the world to do”

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4 thoughts on “Mommy Vs. Daddy”

  1. I love this. Thought provoking debate, which asks questions about both sides of the spectrum. My family are recently split up. I am ok by this being an older child, but I do have a younger sibling. My father is absent and often has ago at my mother. I have seen my dad twice in two years and my brother has only just started getting regular contact. I believe absent parents attack the present parent, because of projection. They are projecting the feelings they have for the neglect they give onto the other parent, in order to defend their actions to themselves.

    1. My point exactly. though it does not excuse the behavior it certainly explains it. Im so glad that you enjoyed this and thank you for taking time to read and give me feedback very appreciated. 🙂

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